Justina: the potential Bridezilla

[by Justina]


Ever since the bitch fit I threw during my ROM wedding that led to my mother reminding me of it every time I talk about the banquet wedding these days, I've been taking precaution to not let it happen again.

Don't every girl wish to have a wedding of their dreams?

I have to admit that I am a perfectionist who wants my wedding to go the way I envision it to be, right down to the tiniest details of what colored shoes are my bridesmaids wearing. Yes, I am a control freak. Yes, I am a bridezilla waiting to be unleashed.

It helps to have a BFF to calm me down way before the wedding by volunteering to take charge on the actual day. But most importantly, I have to overcome this myself.



A good (short) article I've chanced upon while searching for videographer was the personal experience of Bride Lee Amizadai from The Wedding Paparazzi

Her "5 ways to prevent wedding stress and bridezilla moments" is one that I found rather useful:

(Extracts from the article)

1. PRIORITISE. 

First off, decide what you want to prioritise on at your wedding. Do you want it to be first and foremost highly meaningful, awesomely pretty, an occasion to honour family and friends, or simply have fun? Having a priority in mind will help you decide what to keep and what to drop when it comes down to the time crunch on your big day.

2. STRESS *BEFORE* THE WEDDING. 

Do all your running around, decision making, contingency planning and assigning of responsibilities before your big day. Any details that cannot be attended to before your wedding, either forget about it, or delegate to other people who can handle it for you. Which brings us to the next point - 

3. DELEGATE. 

On the day, you are untouchable. Put all your energy into being the happiest, nicest bride ever. Foist everything off on a good friend. Most importantly, empower her with decision-making, some money, and your word that you trust her decisions intrinsically. Of course, if you have a wedding planner, all the better!

 4. WHEN THINGS GO WRONG and they will, remember that there’s no such thing as a perfect wedding. Accept that things WILL screw up somewhere and instead of freaking out or taking your attention from enjoying yourself, find a way to make the best of it and make it into an interesting story. It’s often the wedding hiccups that make the best post-wedding stories. But only if you deal with the issues with humour, grace and restraint. And if nothing can be done to fix a problem, shrug your shoulders, close one eye and trust that everyone will be happy for you despite the tear in the dress, the fact that the flowers are not as fresh as they should be or that the makeup artist was a bit overenthusiastic with the blue eye shadow. I know one groom who forgot to bring the bridal bouquet when he went to fetch the bride. In the end he took the entire floral arrangement off the back of his bridal car and presented it to his bride! : ) It was big and bulky, was probably full of highway exhaust, but it did the job and I bet they’re still laughing about it to this day. 

5. DO NOT BECOME BRIDEZILLA. 

Keep topmost in your mind the fact that your wedding is a celebration of love, family and friendship. Don’t get so caught up on the small details that you forget about the overarching reasons for the celebration. The wedding is a big deal, but you’re shortchanging yourself if you lose friends after the event because you threw a hissy fit, you turn out looking stressed and unhappy in the photos, and half the time you are muttering angrily under your breath in the wedding video!



Looking at the above list, I dare say that I can overcome myself and not get so caught up on the small details during the actual day with proper planning.

But looking back on our ROM wedding, I guess what I really need is to avoid that irritating family member or friend that can bring out that bridezilla in me.